My Asian Mom bought me a Blonde Wig.Posted in Articles, Asian Diaspora, Autobiography, Family/Parenting, Identity Development/Psychology, Media Archive, United States on 2019-10-26 23:07Z by Steven |
My Asian Mom bought me a Blonde Wig.
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2019-10-25
Yeah I wore it ONE TIME. To Wigstock at the end of high school. Doesn’t count. |
And Other Adventures in Internalized Racism
“It will make you feel like success! You can be anyone you want in America. So why not have blonde hair and blue eyes?”
My mom’s big idea was that I should go to my first day of high school wearing a blonde wig and blue eye contacts.
“Why not? It will be a change! Fantastic! I will buy them for you! we can get matching it will be fun!”
So many exclamation points! So much fun! Gesturing at me with a People magazine with Pam Anderson on the cover! I was fourteen; and even then I knew that this situation was no fun. Not for me. And deep down, I bet, not for her.
I tried to verbally tap dance out of it. “I don’t have time for all that. I have to get school supplies and clean my room. Ok see you later byeeee.” Tried to lie my way out of it. “Oh yeah, sure I would totally do that, but I want to pay for it myself so it really feels like me.” Tried out reverse psychology out of it “People should like me for who I really am. Isn’t that what you taught me?”
The one thing I didn’t do was flat out say “No.”…
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