My mixed-race sons look white, but that doesn’t mean racism stays awayPosted in Articles, Family/Parenting, Identity Development/Psychology, Media Archive, Passing, United States on 2016-07-10 20:05Z by Steven |
My mixed-race sons look white, but that doesn’t mean racism stays away
She Knows
2016-07-09
Fahmida Rashid
My mixed-race sons can ‘pass’ for white, and that creates its own pile of issues
The first time was when Jake was in kindergarten. He was showing off the drawing of our family: father, mother, baby brother and himself. He’d even drawn the cat. I was perplexed that he’d colored three of the stick figures brown and one pink. I pointed to one, ignoring the names he’d written over each, and asked, “Who is that?”
“That’s me!” he said, with that mix of exasperation and long-suffering that only 6-year-olds can pull off and still be adorable.
“But why are you brown?” I pressed, ignoring his father’s “don’t go there” look.
Jake and his brother Sam are light-skinned. Not as pale as their father, who hails from the South and can his trace ancestry back to Colonial America, but still light enough that they get asked if they are Greek or Italian. Nothing close to my brown, the one who hails from the subcontinent, the land of spice and tropical sun. Yet he’d colored all three of us the same brown and couldn’t figure out why his mother was asking dumb questions…
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