The Terrible Tale Of My Racist One-Night StandPosted in Articles, Autobiography, Media Archive on 2015-12-04 02:11Z by Steven |
The Terrible Tale Of My Racist One-Night Stand
BuzzFeed
2015-10-24
Ella Sackville Adjei, BuzzFeed Contributor
Tom Humberstone for BuzzFeed
This is the tale of how I accidentally slept with a racist, and the laughably horrible things he said to me while I lay in his bed.
In July I travelled around the Cyclades with two friends, reunited after spending a year apart at different universities, and re-learning who we might have become in the time away. We’d met Australian Sam and his friend in Athens and, excited at seeing a familiar face in a Mykonos club, dragged them across the dance floor. What we took for enthusiasm at mutual recognition turned out to be more prosaic; Australian Sam and co had no memory at all of our previous meeting and clearly thought their irresistible physical magnetism was what made us pluck them out of the crowd. When you’re determined to get over an ex – even if it has been the best part of a year since the breakup – and let’s be real, prove that “still got it!” attractiveness to yourself, bad things can happen…
…A classmate I spoke to, who is of mixed black and white Southeast African origin, had slept with a white South African who insisted on discussing apartheid, her “tribe”, and his exhilaration at “breaking the rules”. The rhetoric and mentality of colonialism is so often still painfully present for so many of us – and not just in our institutions and systems. And unfortunately, racists don’t tend to wear badges to identify them: It would be a lot easier to work out who to avoid on a sweaty dance floor if they did, and whose bright blue eyes to ignore…
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